Wedding day thoughts and dreams often surround the moment that you walk down the aisle, passing your loved ones and closest friends as you approach your groom. Everyone – especially the two of you – are dressed in their nicest attire and your thoughts are on nothing but the love that you are about to acknowledge through a beautiful commitment ceremony (well, that and not tripping). 

But, you’ve probably also given some thought to who will be escorting you down that aisle of matrimony. For many, you’ve planned to take the traditional route and have your father escort you. However, there are brides for which this is not an option (for various reasons). Do not fear; there are great alternatives from which to choose.

Select another male relative that you consider close to your heart. It could be a step dad, uncle, or grandfather. In my case, it was my brother. 

From personal experience, I was raised without any sort of father figure in my life. However, I was blessed with a wonderful relationship with my younger brother. I knew from the time that I was old enough to consider marriage, that he would be the one to give me away. Prior to meeting my groom, he’d been the only man in my life supporting me during my ups and downs and had loved me through it all. That’s why most brides choose their dad and that’s why I chose my brother. But I digress…

Have you mother give you away. If it’s your mother that has been your mentor, your protector, your best friend, she’s a wonderful choice. Don’t get caught up in the gender of the issue; the role of giving you away carries so much more meaning than that. Note that some of you have been raised by a grandmother or aunt; the same applies for these women.

Walk solo. If this decision process is difficult (due to potentially hurt feelings or a complicated family dynamic of sorts), just keep it simple. You don’t need any more stress surrounding your big day. Walk down the aisle as the beautiful bride you are – and shine!

The most important thing to keep in mind when choosing who will give you away is that it is an extremely meaningful role and should not be taken lightly. Strip away all of the junk – including concerns of image, as well as everyone’s opinions of who you should choose, and why. You want your memory of walking down the aisle to be a beautiful and heartfelt one. I encourage you to make your decision accordingly.